September was a busy month, which should be obvious since it’s taken me a month to post about it. I have a new book coming out in January 2017 and the vast majority of the month of September was spent typing furiously. That, of course, came after getting married in July, honeymooning into August and then flying out to Georgia for a week….oh yeah, and then school started.
But I digress…
Besides all of that craziness, I got to check two things off my bucket list, making September a spectacularly productive month on a whole lot of fronts. First item on my bucket list happened September 1 when I FINALLY got to see the Dixie Chicks in concert. I’ve been waiting ten years to see them. Back in 2006, they were performing near Seattle and I wanted to go see them so badly BUT I was due to give birth to my first child only a few days after the concert and I just wasn’t up to it. So, last year, by some miracle, I noticed that they were going on tour again. My soon-to-be husband bought me tickets, cementing his position as best guy EVER!
It was magical. The Chicks opened up with an homage to Prince, and later performed their version of Nothing Compares 2 U in front of a blazing purple backdrop. They did a fun version of a song by Beyonce and, of course, a whole lot of their own numbers. My favorite was Top of the World, which has always been one of my favorite songs and made me cry (as it always does). It inspired me to pick up my ukulele, learn the song and even record a video for my writing group (Monday inspiration).
We got home late late late and I was nearly dead the next day, but since the second item on my bucket list was happening that afternoon, no time for exhaustion.
After lunch on September 2, my husband and I made our way to the University of Colorado – Boulder campus to attend our second John Paul Stevens Lecture. Two years ago we got to see Associate Justice Antonin Scalia speak. As a constitutional law junkie, this lecture series provokes squeals of excitement from me (I’m glad my husband is used to my weirdness). So, seeing Scalia was awesome, but this year’s speaker had me nearly hyperventilating. I saw the announcement when we were in Georgia and immediately sat in the parking lot RSVP’ing to ensure we’d get seats. And I’m glad I did, as the event sold out very quickly.
But again, I digress…
On September 2, I sat in a packed hall and listened with rapt attention and tears in my eyes while Associate Justice Sonia Sotomayor spoke eloquently about her work on the Supreme Court and her devotion to the practice of law. This in and of itself would have been enough to make me happy as a clam. But much to my surprise, Sotomayor actually likes to walk among the crowd as she speaks, much to the chagrin of the half dozen federal marshals assigned to protect her. So, on that balmy day in September, I was literally two feet away from a woman who I admire deeply and who I consider one of the most important people in our country. If you’ve never heard me go on about her book, My Beloved World, you just haven’t been hanging around me enough. You should really go and pick it up right now and read it.
And there you have it folks. Check, check. 2016 is turning out to be one of the most eventful and memorable of my life. My son turns 10 this year. I got married. I went to Europe for the first time. I published a book. I saw the Dixie Chicks. AND I was arm’s length from Sonia Sotomayor.
Life is good and I am thankful.
It’s April 30th! Hooray! This exploration of feelings has been strange. I’ve been looking through lists of feelings online to get ideas, and I’m not so convinced of some of the choices. For instance, can you “feel zombie?” Maybe I’m just doing it wrong?
Reaching the end of this year’s challenge is leaving me feeling very zen. It’s always a little daunting to take on a month long challenge. And so many things have happened in April, I’m a little surprised I made it. Of course, I was late a few times and I’m sure some of my posts were a little lightweight, but I hope you enjoyed them. I tend to use this blog as a place to lend some insight into my personality and my life. As a reader, I’m always curious about the lives and loves and antics of the authors I like to read. I like that think, knowing a little more about how my brain works (or doesn’t), will help give context to my writing. (I am ALL about context).
So before I skip off onto other projects, I’d like to say a huge thank you to everyone who read my blogs this month. I hope you’ll continue following me here or on Facebook (I’m an addict so that’s a great place to find me). For those of you who have read or are planning on reading my book Wallflower Blooming, it was just picked up by a publisher and will be re-released in June. Yippee! And you can get the Kindle version free all next week!
Many exciting things coming to the blog so stay tuned.
And a big welcome to May! More sunny days, less chance of snow and lots of outdoor recreation. Woo hoo!
Well, the list of “Y” feelings is disappointingly short. I am feeling neither yucky nor yielding. And though I am definitely not feeling young, I would say that I’ve been feeling rather youthful lately. Several recent experiences have taken me back to my younger days: glasses of wine, flirty boys and high school antics. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. I believe that saying, “you’re only as old as you feel” and I don’t ever want to feel old. When I’m 90, I still want to be vital and flirty and silly and all the things I feel now at 38. And when I’m determined, there’s no stopping me! Who’s with me?
On another “Y” related note, my critique group took me out last weekend to celebrate my upcoming wedding. It was the day after our writing conference so we all had things to celebrate. We saw a production of Lost in Yonkers. It was so so fabulous! The cast was exceptional. The young boy who played Arty was brilliant. He had so many lines and his facial expressions were priceless. The woman who played Aunt Bella was just beyond words (though clearly I’m going to take a stab at it anyway). The amount of emotion she was able to convey…just so so good. I laughed. I cried. I ate a huge hot fudge sundae. It was a splendid day with a group of people I just love to death.
Here’s me and Aunt Bella.
Xenophobic: intense or irrational fear or dislike of people from other countries.
Do you remember “freedom fries?” In 2003, when France openly opposed the war with Iraq, our government (who get paid a whole lot more than I do, btw) decided to change the name of French Fries served in the Congressional cafeteria to “Freedom Fries!” We’ll show you! Though this maneuver was obviously a highly intelligent act of protest (*sigh*), the dislike or fear of foreigners has been ever present throughout history (and is perpetuated by antics like the Freedom Fries incident).
Xenophobia is a toxic feeling and is used to justify all sorts of atrocities. Why is it that we (humans) fear the unfamiliar? Why do we fear our neighbors? Foreigners represent “the other.” Something other than ourselves; strange, different, alien. We fear the loss of our cultural identity. We see skin color as somehow defining our character and the mixing of races somehow contaminates that. OK, so it’s true that we (big WE) have done some hard work on overcoming these feelings. But there’s a long way to go (as evidenced by our ongoing need to identify one group as “the other” and try to oppress them).
How many people still see someone of Middle Eastern descent and feel uneasy? My family is Hispanic and my mother is often stopped for extra screening at the airport because she looks Middle Eastern. She’s not. But what if she were? My mother is a pacifist. She’s the person least likely to be a threat, especially on planes, which make her nervous. Of course, you can’t tell that by her complexion or the shape of her nose. But we’ve created a security system built around racial profiling. Here’s the problem. The people who actually want to hurt us are paying attention. If we create our system around the concept of “the other,” the logical step for someone who wants to beat the system is to make sure the next evildoers are “us.” (P.S. using the word evildoers here made me cringe, but I’m going with it anyway).
It’s a vicious circle. What do you think? Am I way off base here? Chime in. Your thoughts on this topic are very welcome (but please keep it constructive).
My daughter and I are reading Charlie and the Great Glass Elevator. Now, anything by Roald Dahl is likely to be a little on the strange side, but I can’t help thinking that Willy Wonka is maybe the weirdest character ever. I’m partial to the Gene Wilder version of the infamous Mr. Wonka; playful, whimsical, but still an adult at the end of the day. The Johnny Depp version might be closer to Roald Dahl’s vision, but it’s never been my favorite. Re-reading these books with me has given me some insight into why. Willa Wonka is weird.
That I find Willa Wonka’s weirdness a little worrisome is saying a lot. After all, I am weird. Some of the stuff that comes out of my mouth even surprises me. But there’s something disconcerting about Wonka’s weirdness. And I don’t think I ever noticed it as a kid so I think this re-evaluation is happening through my adult / mom filter. I can’t help but wonder what happened to Willy Wonka. The Johnny Depp movie has that strange dentist backstory which I actually found too creepy. Johnny Depp played creepy Willa Wonka like nobody’s business.
I really do like the whimsical Gene Wilder portrayal best. I am of the opinion that that adaptation of the book combined all the best moments of both Chocolate Factory and Great Glass Elevator. And despite the more recent remake, the Gene Wilder version is timeless. My kids love to watch it and I do too.
Which is your favorite version? Have your kids read the books? Share your stories of weirdness and whimsy!
I almost wrote about feeling vengeful. When someone hurts us, getting back at them may seem like a good idea. But luckily, most of the time we can talk ourselves down from those vengeful feelings and move forward. I read a lot of thrillers, so vengeful feelings are common. Vengeance is actually fairly simple to understand though. Vulnerability and validation, on the other hand…now that’s where things get complicated.
Feeling vulnerable can lead to a whole lot of strange and even dangerous behaviors. For instance, a woman gets mugged and all of sudden she can’t sleep, she can’t eat, she stops hanging out with her friends. She might install extra locks on her doors. Or she might even become incredibly angry, lashing out at the people she loves. Vulnerability can cause emotional and even physical reactions. I just read a book about a woman who’d been abducted and held captive for over a year. After being rescued, she became a vigilante. Her experiences drove her to stalk predators and, in doing so, she felt less vulnerable.
And then there’s validation. Oh the things that people will do to feel validated. Is it human nature to want to be right? To know that the things we believe are true, commonly held, supported. But when that need to feel validated is combined with fear, anger and control issues, it can become ugly. For instance, a parent chooses to listen only to advice that validates their own beliefs, reads articles that validate their choices and uses those resources to make decisions for their children. What are the implications?
Yes, there’s a reason I’m thinking about this. No, I don’t want to discuss the details. But suffice it to say that the challenges a friend is facing have me considering how far a person will go to feel validated and to avoid feeling vulnerable.
It’s finally happened. I’m feeling rather unwell today and I may have to consider that raw onions and I aren’t the BFF’s we’ve always been. But how can I live without raw onions! That’s like cutting garlic or…dare I even think it…green chile from my diet. What’s a New Mexican girl supposed to do without onions? I think I’ll live in denial a bit longer and just hope I’m plain old-fashioned sick.
As with “D”, the list of feelings starting with “U” is largely comprised of “un” words. I’m feeling unclear, unmotivated, unwanted, unloved…You get the picture. The word ugly is on the list and that brought my mind around to the late 90’s TLC hit Unpretty. I always liked that song. Years before Christina Aguilera crooned about being Beautiful, TLC was making a statement about the pressure placed on girls to be conventionally beautiful. The lyrics paint a fairly graphic picture of all the things we can do to conform to society’s idea of beauty: extensions, plastic surgery…you name it. But the group urges listeners to question those who’ve set these standards.
We see a lot more of that these days. Lots of messages about the dangers of fat-shaming; lots of companies with plus-size sections and plus-size models (though there’s some debate about the term plus-size and it’s impact on women). We’ve really become aware of the tremendous harm we do to women and girls by holding them to unrealistic expectations of beauty. How many of us have had someone call us fat and then run out and got thin? If that sort of abuse actually produces a result (other than depression and low self-esteem), it’s usually the unhealthy kind. How many women with eating disorders can trace the roots of their disease to verbal and emotional abuse? And for that matter, how many men can?
In the “K” section, I talked about kindness, so here are a few words about unkindness. Words hurt. That old saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” diminishes the impact that words have on us. It equates emotional abuse with physical pain, and it’s just not an accurate comparison. Emotional pain is felt days, years and even decades later. Physical wounds may heal while emotional scars are ever present. Even the emotional impact of a physical trauma (i.e. PTSD suffered after a car accident) is often the more difficult wound to treat.
Be kind to one another.
Now, I’m off to sauté my onions.
Oh temptation, you rascal. Feeling tempted is an interesting thing. Temptation reveals your strength of character and determination. It toys with your will power. It’s that chocolate brownie sitting on the table that you know you have no business eating. Nonetheless, you inch nearer and inhale deeply, breathing in the intoxicating aroma. Your mouth waters. Your pulse quickens. Even if your will is strong and you have no intention of touching the brownie, temptation can have powerful physical manifestations.
I know what you’re thinking. Give that girl some chocolate!
Temptation can make you feel twitchy. Of course, stress makes me feel more twitchy. When I am stressed out for a prolonged period, I get that twitching eyelid thing. Drives me completely crazy! I know it’s just a matter of relaxing and it’ll be gone, but the muscle spasms annoy me and it takes a lot of will power to calm down. Does that ever happen to you?
Tenacity. Possibly one of my very best traits. Or maybe one of my worst? I’m not easily dissuaded. I may not always have a thick skin, but I’m also not at all likely to let getting my feelings hurt make me doubt my ability to live my dreams. On the other hand, I have a hard time letting go of things. So, like most thing, I think tenacity has its good and bad sides.
(I admit, I can’t think of this word without Tenacious D songs running through my head. I really really like Jack Black.)
Another “T” word: tangent. Happy Monday!
Boy, does my sassiness get me in trouble sometimes. I’m a very social person. I love getting to know new people. Occasionally, my cheekiness is off-putting. But for the most part, I’m pretty easy to get along with and I’m cheerful. My sassy nature works well at writing conferences. I have no problem approaching new people and, more often than not, you’ll find me joking around with even the most serious presenters. This weekend I had a great time interacting with literary agents, experienced authors and other professionals in the field. And my sassy self only ended up in one hilarious and awkward situation as a result. Go me!
On the way to the conference, my sister texted me with the news that Prince had died. This is so not the year for celebrities and rock and roll legends. When Alan Rickman died, I was sad, sad, sad. Prince’s death was especially sobering. He was so young and as I get older, deaths like these make me feel my own mortality. Not only that, but I spent a good portion of the weekend feeling super nostalgic. I grew up on Prince & the Revolution. Even at a very young age, I could feel the raw emotion coming through in those songs. They’re powerful and sensual. I love listening to music that makes me feel things deep in my gut. Prince was like that. Can’t help but be sad that he’s gone, but thankful that I can put on tunes and rock out.
…which is precisely what I did Friday morning. Had you been a fly on the wall in my hotel room, you’d have seen me in full dance party mode. I cranked up Purple Rain and danced like a madwoman. It was so energizing and I had a great day. Thank you dear Prince for your contributions to music, pop culture and my heart.
Today, I'm feeling ready. I'm heading to the Northern Colorado Writers conference. I've picked out the sessions I want to attend. I've got most of my stuff together (just a few things left to go) and I'm ready to spend the next few days immersed in my craft. Woo hoo!
It's going to be a great reboot. When I get back home, I'll be working hard to get the first draft of my next book finished. It'll be fun to apply all the lessons on character, plot and setting that I'll be getting over the next few days. I'm kind of a "school" nerd so I get excited about taking classes. And when the material is something I can directly apply to what I'm doing in my career, that's even better.
So, ready, set, here I go! What are you ready for today? Are you working on a new project? Finishing an ongoing one? Are you ready for the weekend?
Looking forward to hearing from you. The next few posts may be a little short and I'm sure they'll revolved around conference. That being said, at last year's conference, many many things happened (both good and bad) so I'm keeping an open mind. Who knows what you might read here!
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